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THE EFFECT OF SELF-LOVE AND STRESS COPING ON

BATTALION SOLDIERS’ WIVES’ RESILIENCE

Faradillah Ayu Azahrah

, Lucia Vega Tri Krismastuti

, Maulana Seftian

Faculty of Psychology, University of Persada Indonesia YAI, Central Jakarta, DKI Jakarta, Indonesia

faradillahayuaz@gmail.com

luciavegatri@yahoo.com

mseftian@gmail.com

PAPER INFO ABSTRACT

Received: August

2022

Revised: August

2022

Approved: August

2022

Background: The wives of the Paskhas 461

Battalion Soldier will

encounter difficult problems in life, but they must be able to overcome them.

For this reason, the wives of the Paskhas Battalion Soldier must have faith in

their ability to handle these challenges without harshly criticizing or judging

herself if they make mistakes or fail.

Aim: The purpose of this study is to examine the influence of self-

compassion on resilience, the influence of coping stress on resilience, and the

influence of self-compassion and coping on resilience.

Method: This study is quantitative. The subjects in this study were the wives

of the Soldiers of the 461

Battalion 461 Paskhas Jakarta with a total of 108

samples using the purposive sampling technique. This study used 3

measuring instrument scales, namely: the resilience measuring instrument

scale, the self-compassion measuring instrument scale, and the stress coping

measuring instrument scale.

Findings: The results of this study show that there is significant confusion

between self-compassion towards resilience with R Square = 0.451 with a

signification of 0.000 < (p) = 0.05. There is a significant influence between

coping on resilience with n = 0.578, F

count

= 55.58, F

table

= 0.009. There is a

significant influence between self-compassion and coping stress on resilience

with R-Square = 0.495 with a signification of 0.000 < (p) = 0.05.

KEYWORDS

resilience, self-love, stress coping

INTRODUCTION

Paskhas is a Corps that serves as a ground combat unit owned by the Air Force. Paskhas

has many units, one of which is the 461

Battalion in Jakarta. Soldiers of the 461

Battalion

are always assigned to perform duties from the state, therefore Soldiers of the 461

Battalion

must leave wives and children within a certain period.

For the wives of the 461

Battalion Soldier of Paskhas when they are left to serve by their

husband is not an easy thing. The wives of the 461

Battalion Soldier of Paskhas must take

care of all the obligations of the role of a wife, mother, even the role of a member of an

organization plus having to carry out the duties of being the head of a temporary household

which is certainly not easy to carry out alone.

The situation made the wives of the 461

Battalion Soldier Paskhas feel difficult,

depressed, and even stressed. For this reason, it requires a psychological ability to rise from the

situation and condition that makes the slump. This ability is called resilience. It takes resilience

so that the soldiers of the 461

Battalion Soldiers can be more adaptive and can solve all

household matters without feeling burdened. According to research conducted by Permatasari

(2018), Brimob (Indonesian police) wives in Central Java who have similar cases, namely being

left by their husbands to serve in conflict areas, show a low level of review. Therefore, not all

Members' wives have high resilience.

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According to Papalia (2015) resilience is a type of personality with traits such as good

adjustment ability, self-confidence, independence, articulation, attention, helpful and task-

centered. According to Strand et al. (2009), if individuals have a high level of resilience tend

to feel more positive when they are in a state of stress. For this reason, individuals need

resilience skills to be able to live a life away from stress (Pragholapati et al., 2020).

When someone face problems, they often feel that they are failing, and feel inadequate,

even blame themselves (Ronnie & Philip, 2021). For this reason, they need the ability to be

able to cultivate a sense of acceptance and self-love, namely self-compassion. Research

conducted by Yarnell and Neff (2013) shows the results that individuals who love themselves

tend to be able to solve problems by balancing the needs of themselves and others. With high

self-affection, a wife of a 461

Battalion Soldier PASKHAS prefers to make compromises

rather than put aside their needs when they have problems with their spouse, children, or the

environment.

When facing problems, the wives of the Paskhas 461

Battalion Soldier will experience

problems that are not easy but must be able to rise from the situation, for this reason, the wives

of the Paskhas Battalion Soldier needs to have confidence that she can face these life problems

without criticizing and judging herself too sharply if she experiences mistakes or failures.

The ability of individuals to adapt and have resistance to stressful conditions and situations

individuals require effective efforts to overcome their problems (Kassymova et al., 2019).

Efforts to deal with these pressures are known as a stress coping. Kumpfer (1999) says coping

has a significant role in the process of developing resilience. Li (2008) says that resilience is

the result of the use of active coping such as seeking help and solving problems. According to

Lazarus (in Lazarus & Folkman, 1984), stress coping is a cognitive and behavioral effort that

is carried out continuously to regulate pressures from inside and outside the self that is

considered threatening. Feldman (1999) defines coping as the efforts that individuals make to

control, reduce, or learn to tolerate threats that can be stressful. For this reason, the wife of the

Soldiers of the 461

Battalion Paskhas needs coping stress to have resilience skills.

Based on the presentation of the problem phenomenon above, the author wants to

empirically examine the influence between self-compassion and coping stress on resilience in

the wives of Soldiers of the 461

Battalion Paskhas of the Air Force. Therefore, the author is

interested in taking the theme of the thesis with the title "The Effect of Self-Love and Stress

Coping on Battalion Soldiers’ Wives’ Resilience." This study aims to determine the influence

of self-compassion on resilience, the influence of stress coping on resilience, and the influence

of self-compassion and coping with stress on resilience.

METHOD

Operational Definition

Resilience is the ability of an individual to survive, face, and improve to turn a depressed

condition into a natural thing to overcome (Garcini et al., 2021). Researchers used a resilience

scale based on 7 aspects of resilience, namely emotional regulation, impulse control, optimism,

causal analysis, empathy, self-efficacy, and reaching out (Yuliana et al., 2019).

Self-compassion is the giving of affection to oneself by not judging, criticizing, and

forgiving oneself for the imperfections, weaknesses, and failures experienced, and considering

all included in the course of human life (Neff & Dahm, 2015). It is measured using a scale of

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self-compassion includes aspects of self-kindness, self-judgment, common humanity, isolation,

mindfulness, and over-identification (Gedik, 2019).

Coping is an attempt made by the individual to face the situation or conflict experienced

by the individual (Rorondo & Kincaid, 2008). Researchers used a coping scale arranged based

on several types of coping, namely self-control, distancing, positive reappraisal, accepting

responsibility, escape/avoidance, confrontative coping, planful problem solving, and seeking

social support (Das et al., 2018).

Population and Sample

In this study, the population of the study was the wife of the Paskhas 461 Corps soldiers

with a total of 150 people. Samples are part of the number and characteristics possessed by the

population, the sample taken from the population must be truly representative (Sugiyono,

2019). The sampling method used in this study is the nonprobability sampling technique with

the Purposive Sampling method. Sugiyono (2019) stated that "Purposive sampling is a sample

determination technique with certain considerations.” The criteria for respondents who were

sampled in this study were as follows:

1) A wife of the Soldiers of the 461

Battalion Paskhas Jakarta; and

2) Have been or are being left by their husbands for outside service.

Data Collection Techniques

In this study, data collection was carried out by filling in the psychological scale. The data

research method uses the Likert scale. The Likert scale uses five response categories, with

value weights as follows:

Table 1. Likert Scale Grading Table

Alternative Answers

Favorable

Unfavorable

(SS) Very Appropriate

(S) Appropriate

(N) Neutral

(TS) Not Appropriate

(STS) Highly Incongruous

Data Analysis Methods

The data analysis method used in this study is quantitative analysis in the form of

calculations using the statistical method of the SPSS program version 22.0 for windows. The

data analysis method in this study used simple linear regression, ETA test, dummy test,

stepwise test, and normality test.

RESULTS AND DISCUSSION

The results of the first analysis using a simple Linear Regression data analysis method

with the result of R-Square between self-compassion and resilience of 0.451. This shows that

there is a significant influence in a positive direction, which means that the better the

compassion of the wife of the 461

Battalion Soldier of Paskhas of the Jakarta Air Force, the

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higher the resilience. Vice versa, the worse the self-compassion that belongs to the wife of the

461

Battalion Soldier of Paskhas of the Jakarta Air Force, the lower the resilience. This is

following the results of research conducted by Permatasari (2018) on the wives of Brimob

members who have similar characteristics to the wives of Soldiers of the 461st Battalion

Paskhas of the Jakarta Air Force, namely the often left by husbands to run external services,

with the result that there is a positive relationship between self-compassion with resilience in

the wives of satbrimob members. With a high level of self-compassion, individuals will be able

to adjust themselves to facing challenges in life more easily.

This means that if the wife of the 461

Battalion Soldier of Paskhas TNI AU (Tentara

Nasional Indonesia Angkatan Udara, Indonesian National Army Airforce) Jakarta is

increasingly able to have a sense of connection with others, can regulate emotions, and has a

positive passion for herself, she becomes more resilient so that she can face challenges as a

wife of the 461

Battalion Paskhas Jakarta Soldier.

Based on the results of data analysis carried out on 108 respondents, the results of

calculation with the ETA test between the stress coping variable and resilience obtained results

n = 0.587, F

count

= 55.58, F

table

= 0.009. Since F

count

is greater than F

table

then n is significant.

This shows a significant influence in a positive direction, which means that the better the coping

stress strategy owned by the wife of the 461

Battalion Soldier of Paskhas of the Jakarta Air

Force, the higher the resilience. Vice versa, the worse the coping stress that the wife of the

461

Battalion Soldier Paskhas of the Jakarta Air Force, the lower the resilience.

It is also proven in the results of research conducted by Pratiwi and Hirmaningsih (2017)

on women heads of poor households, which states that there is a very significant positive

relationship, namely the better the coping ability to stress, the better the resilience ability of

individuals. That is, the better the coping ability, the better the resilience ability possessed by

the woman head of the poor household. Hence, if the wives of the 461

Battalion Soldier

Paskhas TNI AU (Tentara Nasional Indonesia Angkatan Udara, Indonesian National Army

Airforce) Jakarta have good stress coping ability when she is left by her husband running

outside service, the possibility of being able to get out of the pressure – the pressure of the

situation will also increase so that the wife of the Soldiers of the 461

Battalion Paskhas TNI

AU (Tentara Nasional Indonesia Angkatan Udara, Indonesian National Army Airforce)Jakarta

will be spared from stress and able to be able to develop yourself.

Resilience is the ability of individuals to survive by facing difficult situations and making

themselves better in the future, and effectively turning a depressing condition into something

that can be overcome (Windle, 2011). The third hypothesis test using Dummy Regression

between the variables of self-compassion and coping stress on resilience obtained values of R

= 0.704 and R Square = 0.495 and signification of 0.000 with (p) < 0.05 this proves that there

is a significant relationship. Thus, Ha

There is an influence between self-compassion and

coping stress on resilience in the wives of Soldiers of the 461st Battalion Paskhas of the Jakarta

Air Force.

CONCLUSION

Referring to the results of the analysis of research data, it can be drawn, it can be concluded

that there is a significant and positive influence between self-compassion on the resilience of

the wife of the 461

Battalion Soldier Paskhas of the Jakarta Air Force with a positive direction,

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which means that the better the self-compassion the wife of the 461

Battalion Soldier Paskhas

TNI AU (Tentara Nasional Indonesia Angkatan Udara, Indonesian National Army Airforce)

Jakarta, the higher the resilience. Vice versa, the worse the self-compassion that belongs to the

wife of the 461

Battalion Soldier Paskhas of the Jakarta Air Force, the lower the resilience.

Then, there is a significant and positive influence between stress coping on the resilience

of the wife of the 461

Battalion Soldier of Paskhas of the Jakarta Air Force with a positive

direction, which means that the better the stress coping that the wife of the 461

Battalion

Soldier Paskhas of the Jakarta Air Force, the higher the resilience. Vice versa, the worse the

stress coping that the wife of the 461

Battalion Soldier of Paskhas of the Jakarta Air Force,

the lower her resilience.

Finally, there is a significant and positive influence between self-compassion and stress

coping on resilience in the wives of 461st Battalion Soldiers of Paskhas of the Jakarta Air

Force. This means that the better the ability of self-compassion and the ability to cope with

stress, the higher the resilience of the wife of the Soldiers of the 461st Battalion Paskhas of the

Jakarta Air Force. The worse the ability of self-compassion and the ability to cope with stress,

the lower the resilience of the wife of the 461

Battalion Soldier of Paskhas of the Jakarta Air

Force.

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